Take Charge: Stop Bullying

Bullying is prevalent in the United States, and it is a problem that can impact people of any age – from children to adults.

Middlesex Hospital clinical psychologist Angel Roubin says adults and children may respond differently when they are bullied. Adults may be more forthcoming and assertive when seeking support and help; children may be more likely to internalize their experiences and think that something is wrong with them. But despite a possible difference in reaction, Dr. Roubin says the warning signs and the types of bullying experienced are very similar for both adults and children.

What to look for

The following could be signs that someone has been bullied:

• Low self esteem
• Relationship difficulties, including trust issues, loneliness and the fear of being hurt
• Poor social and emotional adjustment in a school or workplace setting, including social isolation, academic or occupational difficulties and problem behaviors like absenteeism and disruption
• Recurrent memories of victimization later in life and other posttraumatic symptoms, such as depression, anxiety, humiliation and self blame

Signs that someone is acting as a bully can include:

• In children, poor adjustment related to academic achievement and perception of the school climate
• Involvement in socially deviant behaviors, such as drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes.

Types of bullying

• Physical bullying, which includes hitting, kicking, pushing, shoving or locking indoors
• Relational bullying, which includes social exclusion, gossip and spreading rumors about others
• Verbal bullying, which includes name calling, making fun or teasing in a hurtful way
• Cyber bulling, which includes using a computer, email message, images or a smartphone to aggress against others

How you can help

• Recognize the warning signs.
• Talk to your friend or loved one about bullying.
• Encourage participation in bullying intervention programs, which have been shown to reduce bullying by 20 percent on average.
• Gain a comprehensive understanding of specific social and environmental factors that perpetuate bullying behaviors. This will allow organizations and families to target specific problems.
• Promote social-emotional well-being and supportive social relationships. This means helping to facilitate a stronger social support system for your loved one. Be there for them!
• If a crime has been committed or some is at risk of being harmed, call 9-1-1.
• Seek help from a primary care physician or psychologist if needed.